I have two young daughters who often play together. They also play with neighbor kids and therefore share toys, bikes, and experiences.
I love when kids genuinely play together. They often come up with solutions that some of our leaders could learn to model.
But at times a child will want to play with their own toy by themselves. And whether someone else wants to play with their toy does not really matter to them. It’s their toy and they have no problem saying no.
As adults, we often feel obligated to tell them to “learn to share”. I am often the first one. But I wonder how valid this is. Knowing that my child does have experiences of community, should she always be willing to share what she has? Isn’t it also respecting her than to say “it’s ok for her to be selfish”?
I own a car. While I have no problem lending it to a friend in need of a ride, I also know no one would “force me” to share my car.
So why should we force a child to share? Or even limit their time of pleasure? (as in take turns).
When it is a game or object shared by the community, I love the idea of teaching them the joy of common experience, but when it is something they consider their own, I feel that respecting their desire for play is a much needed allowance.
How does it get any better than that?
Just did a video and first thing I did was judging how good I was. Of course, I know better than accepting that and also went and saw all the things that went right.
But then I remembered how Access Consciousness teaches me to stop judging anything as right or wrong. So I watched the video without any judgement and saw something amazing come out of it. A story, the story I wanted to tell.
But I digress. How often do we go to the thought “I am not good enough” after we create something? Why” Yes, we may have had some programming that triggers this reaction. But I actually start to see how by doing this we are actually acknowledging how we are responsible for our life. If something is not as we would like it to be, then we are the one responsible for it.
And we are. But that does not make us wrong. We simply chose something that we no longer want to choose. The old programming says “if it does not please you or someone then it’s wrong”. That is not correct. If it does not please you or someone else, you just chose something different. Love it!
What would it take for the world to embrace choice and let go of anything wrong? What if there was never any wrong choice?
How does it get any better than that?
Lately I have been hearing many thought leaders talk about “being responsible about our own energy”. Since the world is made of energy and we are affecting it all by what we project, it does make sense to start taking responsibility for the energy we be.
How do we do that? It does require to be aware of our energy first. The first easy answer is how do we feel? If we feel good, we are probably being love, peace, and other yummy feelings. And when we feel bad, we are probably being the opposite energy, energies we don’t really want to see reflected into our world.
But what about anger? I use to do anger a lot. And I got a lot back to. I got people angry at me and I got reasons to be angry. But the truth is anger is not really an energy, it is more a residual effect. If I do anger because I am being a victim, then the world will reflect victimhood to me. But if I do anger because I am being empowered, the world will reflect back more empowered people.
The cool thing about doing anger when I am the energy of being empowered is that I do not project any victim or powerless or fight energy into the world. I actually from a space of possibility. When was the last time you stood up for yourself? That’s doing anger from the energy of being empowered.
What will it take for us to be responsible for the energy we project into the world and always choose to do anger from the place of being empowered?
What else is possible?
I just went through an amazing Access Consciousness proces with Dr. Dain Heer where he invited us to destroy the reality as we knew it to create something new. I realized how much I liked some of my current reality and I was not sure I was ready to let it go.
I face this often with my clients when I do Bars sessions. When something comes up and I ask if they are willing to uncreate and destroy all of it (let go of something), many answer first “I am not sure”. They want to know what will happen when they let go.
We prefer something that does not work to something blank where we get to create.
Yes, I understand. The blank canevas syndrom can be scary. What if what we create is no better than what we have created so far? May be. But what if by letting go we have also let go of the judgement of ourselves preventing us to be all that we can be? Wouldn’t we then be creating something new that would completely reflect the magnificent being that we truly be?
I do believe that we are all magnificent beings doing an amazing job at hiding. Isn’t it time for us to reveal ourselves to the world? What new possibilities would we create?
How does it get any better than that?
There really is only one lover I want to please. One person I want to make sure is happy. Only one person I want to weake up next to and say “I love you” to.
And there is only one person who knows me so well that they can actually say or think the thing that will stop me or make me feel small and unloved.
That person is me.
This year, I discovered true love. With myself 🙂 And I also discovered that when I love someone I am loving the part of me I see in them. So there are many days when I am floating on air since I love many wonderful people 🙂
Loving me does not mean simply saying I love me. It means loving me when I mess up, forget, hurt, get angry, do it wrong. It means knowing deep inside that there is truly nothing wrong about me. It means stopping the self-judgement once and for all. Access Consciousness has this beautiful question that we can ask ourselves: “What energy, space and consciousness can I be that would allow me to perceive, know, be and receive the infinite contribution I truly be?” That shakes every fiber of my being, knowing that I am a contribution and that all it takes is for me to know it. I don’t need to get a whole lot of money or some kind of degree or award. I just need to KNOW it.
How does it get any easier than that?
Every morning, I wake up asking myself who do I want to be today? Knowing that I have a choice, that I do make that choice (consciously or not) is a very refreshing thought. I get to start over if I want to. In this present moment, it does not matter what happened 10 seconds ago and I can only create now what will happen 10 seconds later 🙂
So when I hear about the European Debt crisis or the difficult economic recession, I wonder what if we all started over? Obviously, there are a lot of things that no longer work for many people in the economic and political structures that our ancestors put in place. So what if we forgot about all of it and decided right now what we want to create?
It is scary and exciting at the same time, isn’t it? What is the difference? It is the same energy. One you are looking at the situation through the lens of doom and lack of faith, and the other through the lens of possibility. What if both were true? Which one would YOU choose?
I am hearing some of your thoughts already and I know many think it is not possible to “start over”. Well, when Germany entered World War Two their economy was so bad that they had to carry a whole bag of coins to buy a loaf of bread. Today they are one of the richest nation in the Western Europe. So think again.
Also, regardless of your faith,when you think it is not possible to start over, consider who is thinking this. The part of you who went to school and reads papers or watches TV or the part of you who loves, hopes, dreams and knows?
We do get to start over, and so does the structured we put in place. How does it get any better than this?