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Day 18 through 23 – Tears, laughs and surprises

The last few days have been such a whirlwind of amazement and growth and embrace that I almost forgot to post. I didn’t really forget. I chose to do something else.

I love my blog readers and when I saw all the superb comments I got in the last few days I knew why I had felt unhinged 🙂 Yesterday, I even cried as I was ready to release all the ways I was not living the blissful life that I know is mine.

If you do not know yet, on Monday I gave birth to a new baby of mine “Blissful Living with Sophie” video Summit. The launch went very well and I am enjoying the comments and the increasing number of people aware and coming to join all the fun. (if you are registering just now, no worries, we have reruns this week-end so you can catch up on the 5 amazing people I interviewed this week).

And today I spoke to my husband about all the attachment I had around the summit. I was attached to the number of people signing up, watching the videos and jumping on the amazing opportunities offered to them. I was ready to let that go. As soon as the conversation was finished, I felt lighter. I checked my email to see more people signed up and more people were taking advantage of our special offers!

I love feeling lighter 🙂

What else is possible?


Day 14 & 15 – The good, the bad and the possibility

Yesterday was one of my best and worst day in a while. I connected with my local community in new ways and I attracted new beautiful experiences and knowing.
Then toward the evening, when I had taken the steps toward relaxation (drinking wine), something happened that caused fear and disappointment on my part. I knew I really was the one causing it but in a few seconds I forgot all about what I am talking about here and started blaming someone else.

After a few uncomfortable exchange of emails and some deep breathing, I was clear that my circumstance would not change unless I took responsibility for the emotion and asked what else was possible. Now I was willing to consider a new possibility.

This is why I love Access Consciousness. It teaches us tools and processes to remove the polarity, not to make something wrong right. Once something just is, it allows so many more possibilities.

I do not describe many tools of Access but today I really want to be grateful for the tool of saying “this is an interesting point of view” every time I hear a point of view in my head or someone gives me theirs. If I wake up feeling moody, I can say “it’s an interesting point of view”. If my boss feels that I did not respond to his email fast enough, I can say “it is an interesting point of view”. If the news say these are bad economic times, I can say “it is an interesting point of view”.

Just saying this feels like a window opening up in my brain. Tensions disappears and I can breathe better.

What if every though was an interesting point of view?

Day 12 – Do we really need to learn to share?

I have two young daughters who often play together. They also play with neighbor kids and therefore share toys, bikes, and experiences.

I love when kids genuinely play together. They often come up with solutions that some of our leaders could learn to model.

But at times a child will want to play with their own toy by themselves. And whether someone else wants to play with their toy does not really matter to them. It’s their toy and they have no problem saying no.

As adults, we often feel obligated to tell them to “learn to share”. I am often the first one. But I wonder how valid this is. Knowing that my child does have experiences of community, should she always be willing to share what she has? Isn’t it also respecting her than to say “it’s ok for her to be selfish”?

I own a car. While I have no problem lending it to a friend in need of a ride, I also know no one would “force me” to share my car.

So why should we force a child to share? Or even limit their time of pleasure? (as in take turns).

When it is a game or object shared by the community, I love the idea of teaching them the joy of common experience, but when it is something they consider their own, I feel that respecting their desire for play is a much needed allowance.

How does it get any better than that?

Day 10 – Why are we so tough on ourselves?

Just did a video and first thing I did was judging how good I was. Of course, I know better than accepting that and also went and saw all the things that went right.

But then I remembered how Access Consciousness teaches me to stop judging anything as right or wrong. So I watched the video without any judgement and saw something amazing come out of it. A story, the story I wanted to tell.

But I digress. How often do we go to the thought “I am not good enough” after we create something? Why” Yes, we may have had some programming that triggers this reaction. But I actually start to see how by doing this we are actually acknowledging how we are responsible for our life. If something is not as we would like it to be, then we are the one responsible for it.

And we are. But that does not make us wrong. We simply chose something that we no longer want to choose. The old programming says “if it does not please you or someone then it’s wrong”. That is not correct. If it does not please you or someone else, you just chose something different. Love it!

What would it take for the world to embrace choice and let go of anything wrong? What if there was never any wrong choice?

How does it get any better than that?

Day 9 -Let’s talk about anger :)

Lately I have been hearing many thought leaders talk about “being responsible about our own energy”. Since the world is made of energy and we are affecting it all by what we project, it does make sense to start taking responsibility for the energy we be.

How do we do that? It does require to be aware of our energy first. The first easy answer is how do we feel? If we feel good, we are probably being love, peace, and other yummy feelings. And when we feel bad, we are probably being the opposite energy, energies we don’t really want to see reflected into our world.

But what about anger? I use to do anger a lot. And I got a lot back to. I got people angry at me and I got reasons to be angry. But the truth is anger is not really an energy, it is more a residual effect. If I do anger because I am being a victim, then the world will reflect victimhood to me. But if I do anger because I am being empowered, the world will reflect back more empowered people.

The cool thing about doing anger when I am the energy of being empowered is that I do not project any victim or powerless or fight energy into the world. I actually from a space of possibility. When was the last time you stood up for yourself? That’s doing anger from the energy of being empowered.

What will it take for us to be responsible for the energy we project into the world and always choose to do anger from the place of being empowered?

What else is possible?

Choice will set you free

I wrote this blog for the brilliant The Zephyr Chronicles. What if you chose everything about sex?

I was raised Catholic, in France, in an affluent family. While there were many adults around me joking about sex, no one ever took the time to actually tell me about sex. I was 13 when I found out the mechanics of it and I was 21 when I lost my virginity. And I remember that being such a difficult experience that even my partner was not sure he could get me to break the heavy veil of wrong hanging around sex.

Since no one talked about sex with me, sex, and anything related to it was like the big dark dangerous man that I needed to avoid at all cost. To make things worse, I stayed up late one night around the age of 12 and caught a movie on television where a baby dies when, in a moment of passion, a woman’s lover throws his heavy coat on top of the baby’s cradle.

But healing my story around sex must have been one of my karmic responsibilities. When I was 28 years old I was introduced to a group of friends who stand for freedom in every way shape or form. One of these freedoms is freedom of sexual expression. This group often had private events where having sex was often a glorious possibility. Would you be surprised that I would sat in a corner, my body shaking and crying my heart out? Not really. I was very fortunate though as many friends would just sit with me and often offer loving words that did not make my reaction wrong in any way.

The next 10 years offered more and more experiences for me to watch myself react to different sexual situations. As I was exposed to things that my upbringing would have me judge as “wrong” I heard the voice inside my heart that became louder and louder and said “choose!” Declaring something wrong because I was told it was, no longer worked for me

Was it wrong for me to be attracted to both men and women? Was it wrong for me to realize that orgasmic energy was not only experienced through sex but also handling, touching, kissing, eating? Was it wrong for me to love being naked and enjoy the natural curves of my body? Was it wrong for me to get turned on by watching other people have sex? Was it wrong for me to detach sex from meaning that I needed to have a “serious relationship” with that person? While I know now that it is all perfectly fine because those are the choices I made, I know that others may not be as comfortable with my choices. And I am ok with that. They may even judge me as dirty or unnatural but that is their point of view, not mine.

But let’s backtrack for a moment. How did I become ok with all of this? Was it simply the exposure to a new possibility around sex? It certainly helped. But I also know that without the tools I have to live my life powerfully it would have been a harder road.

The first step was to acknowledge all the ways I was making sex wrong. In particular, how I was making my own sexuality wrong. I realized I had so much meaning attached to it that until I recognized it was a choice, I would not be free from it. That’s what I saw when I was trying to fight with my husband over something and a part of me just could not get upset. I saw the way I was making myself and him wrong and by just seeing that, the polarity was gone.

Today I have tools that I find in Access Consciousness to help me see what is true for me. Basically, anything that feels heavy, painful, hurtful or restricted is not true for me. When I say “sex is only done at home behind closed doors, in my bed, lights off” it sure does not feel good to me so I know it is not true. I then can use the clearing statement of Access and remove any point of views or decisions related to this so that the polarity is gone and I truly have choice.

Access is my favorite ways to remove any kind of polarity but I encourage anyone to start by asking themselves: Did I make that choice or did I get that choice from someone else?

Sex is a beautiful thing but then that’s also my point of view!


What if we could start over?

Every morning, I wake up asking myself who do I want to be today? Knowing that I have a choice, that I do make that choice (consciously or not) is a very refreshing thought. I get to start over if I want to. In this present moment, it does not matter what happened 10 seconds ago and I can only create now what will happen 10 seconds later 🙂

So when I hear about the European Debt crisis or the difficult economic recession, I wonder what if we all started over? Obviously, there are a lot of things that no longer work for many people in the economic and political structures that our ancestors put in place. So what if we forgot about all of it and decided right now what we want to create?

It is scary and exciting at the same time, isn’t it? What is the difference? It is the same energy. One you are looking at the situation through the lens of doom and lack of faith, and the other through the lens of possibility. What if both were true? Which one would YOU choose?

I am hearing some of your thoughts already and I know many think it is not possible to “start over”. Well, when Germany entered World War Two their economy was so bad that they had to carry a whole bag of coins to buy a loaf of bread. Today they are one of the richest nation in the Western Europe. So think again.

Also, regardless of your faith,when you think it is not possible to start over, consider who is thinking this. The part of you who went to school and reads papers or watches TV or the part of you who loves, hopes, dreams and knows?

We do get to start over, and so does the structured we put in place. How does it get any better than this?

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